Forget being cheesy, being a parasite is worse.

A couple of years back, I read Reid Hoffman’s bestseller: “The Startup of you.” The book is majorly about how at every stage of your life, there’s always room for beginnings, improvements, improvisations and all that.

I remember thoroughly enjoying the book to the extent that one of the key phrases “Permanent Beta” (which was described as a situation of unending upgrading) began to slip off my tongue all too often.

Now, if I had been discussing with people who had read the book as well, it’d have probably been quite okay, at least, we’ll have a common ground for understanding. I however went as far as using it in quotidian mundane conversations with very basic people and then tried to explain the implications to them thereafter. Needless to say, mostly, it was a situation I’d describe as EPIC FAIL! Ended up sounding like a ‘faux intellectual’ and sometimes, just plain cheesy.

I’ve found that as much as reading good books is a desirable trait, there’s the tendency for some to try too hard to lift the things they read into their lives without some subtle tweaking. Most of these ‘some’ I speak of end up being corny or altogether annoying.

A very good example is in the implementation of the art of leveraging.

You see, the horse has been flogged dead by writers and speakers alike that it is wise to leverage on the skill set of those who are more capable than you in certain jurisdictions or endeavors, and so you find that in the process of trying to leverage on said abilities, a good number of people end up becoming parasitic or excessively intrusive.

I reckon it’s okay to have model people you look up to, passive tutors you learn from, skilled people you run to. At the same time, it is expedient to know when you’re being too much of a pest. And even in the event that you must frequently require the services of a person, muster good effort from within to not make the person feel used. Sometimes this is achieved when you offer tangible tokens in appreciation for the work the fellow is doing (words of gratitude don’t mean much), sometimes you simply ask for directions instead of burdening the fellow with your whole work, sometimes show you’re interested in the person, not as an object, but as a real person. Time afterall is arguably the greatest resource someone can share with you.

Have a great week ahead!


1. I’m recommending the book “Leadership and Self Deception” by the Arbinger institute for your consumption this week. While the title might not be so alluring for you, it seeming like another of those collection of rules to being a good leader, I assure you it’s a book that talks about how to deal with jerks more than it does talk about leaders.

2. I write to create work that matters, and so I have resolved to write every Monday and Thursday (Twice a week) so this endeavor has more of a pattern than it has always had. The bid is to answer the same question that one of my favorite writers JAMES CLEAR tries to answer: How do we live better?

3. I’m counting on you to have a wider reach, and this is only possible through you when you share the articles you see here whenever you’re inclined to. You’ll find the buttons just below.

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