I woke up this morning and at some point, an old student union song popped into my head and I started singing. My mom was amused, it reminded her of our Students Union president back then, and as usual, she was again critical of his past actions, maintaining that ‘all he did’ afterall only led to his delay in school. As I had often supported the dude staunchly, I again did, for I didn’t see anything outrightly wrong in all he did; his efforts, and that of his team were geared towards protecting the interests of us students.
Anyway, my Dad was intently listening to the discussion that had ensued between myself and Le mother, and at some point, he mentioned that he “Likes the way I approach issues without ‘fixed assumptions’ as well as without sentiments.”
To be honest, I felt all giddy on the inside. That was some high praise. Although who are we kidding, there are still some issues I know I approach with thickly steaming bias, for example, no stats presented can in my eyes make a case for Manchester United footballer Michael Carrick’s ability. Anyway, that is just one example, afterall, the goal is not to paint myself black here. LOL
My day has kicked off on an awesome note because of that compliment he had for me, and I’m positive I will look to do even better in ridding myself of bias. Abraham Lincoln said, “Everyone deserves a compliment.” It isn’t difficult to see why he said so. A compliment can make one desire and strive to put forth better effort than he is already managing in anything. A compliment can make someone who was already in deep despair become motivated. A compliment can make someone feel important and loved. A compliment (a genuine one) has the capacity to transform someone from a lazy, bitter drone to an effusive, hardworking fellow.
Today, that good you notice in someone that you tell her can go a long way in making her exceed beyond the capacities of her station. You have absolutely no idea how much your approval means to the next fellow. Commend more often, criticize less often.