Monthly Archives: June 2014

The Journey Is The Destination

Regret makes you old

Bitterness poisons the people around you

The road is long, the journey is the destination.

Do you ever wonder if we make the moments in our lives, or the moments in our lives make us?

Or perhaps it’s a fair mix of us making the moments, and the moments making us

The rest of your life is a long time, and whether you like it or not, it’s being shaped now

You can choose to base your circumstances on fate, or bad luck or bad choices or you can fight back.

You can fight back when everything around you conspires against you

Sometimes, you worry too much about how things will work out

You become overly affected at how insufficient your life is

Think about this though…

What’s worse? Not getting all you wished for, or getting it and finding out it’s not enough?

In the end, it’s not what you are that matters, it’s who you are

Who you are is who you impress upon others everyday
The rest of your life is being shaped now with the dreams you chase, the choices you make, and the person you desire to be

To some people, the epitaph at the end of their lives is the most important thing to them. The way I see it, what matters most is how you live your life now, ensuring your daily living is in sync with your innermost beliefs.
In the end, the journey is the destination.
Cheers to an awesome week ahead!

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Everyone Deserves A Compliment

I woke up this morning and at some point, an old student union song popped into my head and I started singing. My mom was amused, it reminded her of our Students Union president back then, and as usual, she was again critical of his past actions, maintaining that ‘all he did’ afterall only led to his delay in school. As I had often supported the dude staunchly, I again did, for I didn’t see anything outrightly wrong in all he did; his efforts, and that of his team were geared towards protecting the interests of us students.

Anyway, my Dad was intently listening to the discussion that had ensued between myself and Le mother, and at some point, he mentioned that he “Likes the way I approach issues without ‘fixed assumptions’ as well as without sentiments.

To be honest, I felt all giddy on the inside. That was some high praise. Although who are we kidding, there are still some issues I know I approach with thickly steaming bias, for example, no stats presented can in my eyes make a case for Manchester United footballer Michael Carrick’s ability. Anyway, that is just one example, afterall, the goal is not to paint myself black here. LOL

My day has kicked off on an awesome note because of that compliment he had for me, and I’m positive I will look to do even better in ridding myself of bias. Abraham Lincoln said, “Everyone deserves a compliment.” It isn’t difficult to see why he said so. A compliment can make one desire and strive to put forth better effort than he is already managing in anything. A compliment can make someone who was already in deep despair become motivated. A compliment can make someone feel important and loved. A compliment (a genuine one) has the capacity to transform someone from a lazy, bitter drone to an effusive, hardworking fellow.

Today, that good you notice in someone that you tell her can go a long way in making her exceed beyond the capacities of her station. You have absolutely no idea how much your approval means to the next fellow. Commend more often, criticize less often.

I’m out.


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Playing The Victim

“I reckon than man in any estate or station has the right to two choices; either he sits on his arse and play the victim, or he stand his ground and refuse to be trodden upon.”

– Oreoluwa Aboluwarin


It’s not uncommon to look for someone to blame every time we are faced with inconvenience of some sort. There’s always a ‘why’ as to why we failed at something, always an excuse why our best effort was not put forth in some endeavor.

It takes a conscious decision to see beyond the irritations and limitations people and circumstances dump on you by virtue of verbal, attitudinal and situational happenstances.

There’s the cultural, the religious, the academic, the positional and the statuary instances that might require you moaning and fixated on what you don’t have or what has been done to you, but when you learn to see beyond your prevailing circumstances, when you choose to believe you’re ALWAYS in control of what happens next, then you’re well on your ascension out of the hellish pit of victimhood.

Good old Brutus in the ancient Shakespearean tale of Julius Ceaser said:


“There’s a tide in the affairs of men, which taken at the flood leads on to fortune.”


In the end, all you need do is ensure you’re well prepared when that particular tide that leads to fortune sweeps along, so you’ll ride the wave to greatness. As an alternative, you can choose to sit and wonder what might have been had ‘this or that’ not befallen you.

On a final note, acknowledging the importance/value of what we converse about and its effect on the mind, I leave you with this quote:


“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. “

– Eleanor Roosevelt


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Hi guys!

It’s a beautiful Monday morning, and I hope it will indeed be a beautiful week, not like many other weeks gone by characterized by colossal shit!

The weekend certainly flew by, and I’m glad it did, not because there’s any big deal to look forward to in my office, but because it was a whole lot different from other weekends. Nothing spectacular, just plain different.

That said, today’s post will be quite short for two reasons; the first being that I’m a little dizzy as I type these lines, the second being that I’ve so far refused to ditch the sickening habit of refusing to write my blog for a day the day before. Well, I’m sure that will change soon.

So… yesterday, myself and my blog partner (a soccer blog) felt the backlash from a fan from abandoning our blog all these months. Apparently, if we had stuck in there, it was sure to be a hit at some point. I know this, he (my partner) knows this and so it is beffudling as to why we stopped blogging. Anyway, we resolved to start something soon, and keep at it this time. I’m telling you this so you’ll prepare to be one of our frequent readers (in the case that you love soccer, Manchester United and Arsenal most especially).

Another talking point over the weekend… I realized anew how good it is to have principles guiding your actions and life in general. If I didn’t have those principles, I’m sure I’d have done things I’d regret, or at least set things in motion, things which must not be mentioned here. Let me leave the details sketchy for now. Anyway, “you are who you are, and that is all you are. There is no hiding from that.

Finally, I got back my gusto for scrabble. My study guide goes everywhere with me these days. Doing the things I love and am good at gives me the highest degree of satisfaction. This agelong assertion gets ‘realer’ to me everyday. And so here is me charging you (like a broken record) “Work becomes play when you do the things you love.” P.S. – The Scrabble I play is professional scrabble, and hence, WORK, but of course ‘play’ also.

The post has been short enough as I promised I think?

Okay, let me not bore you further with my sometimes nerdy lifestyle…

Keep being positive, keep the fire burning within you aglow, do something for someone that can’t pay you back, read at least a book this week… Whatever you’ve long put off, just DO IT! Have a smashing week ahead.


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Try so hard to STOP TRYING SO HARD

There’s only so much you can do, there’s only so much you can be.

The moment you start trying too hard, the moment you put impressing people over actually doing stuff that matter, you find yourself lost. You find that your productivity becomes limited.

Sometimes, we think too much of our multitasking capabilities, and this ensures that in the end, what we end up achieving on many fronts dwarfs what we would’ve achieved had we set our minds to one task at a time.

Sometimes, we fail to realize that the strength of associations/alliances differ from individual to individual, and so we spend too much time trying to bond covalently with who should probably remain a casual acquaintance.

You see, life is too short to sow so much into stuff that doesn’t in one way or the other further our cause in the grand scheme of things.

Make a resolve from now to identify on time the things and people you should devote a huge chunk of your time and resources to, and with all that you have, nurture those relationships and ‘causes’ to maturity.

You’ll find that you’ll be less frustrated about ‘things not working out’ when you do your best at what you love. Your best alone, no more than that!

You’ll find that you’ll be less bitter/concerned about people not reciprocating your concern about/care for them when you realize your place in their lives and theirs in yours.

Try so hard to stop ‘trying so hard’

There’s only so much you can do, there’s only so much you can be.


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