“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”
– Shannon L. Alder
If you observe carefully, you see that nobody, whether child, youth or adult, likes to be compared to another in terms of achievement. Nobody likes to be run down just because someone, somewhere has been able to do something he hasn’t been able to do. The reason for this not that difficult to determine.
Take for instance, I constantly tell a lover how another female I’m well acquainted with is more capable than she in almost all regards. Imagine for a minute how her disposition towards me will be constantly. Another example is when you sing the praises of some other child in the presence of a little one known to you, imagine how inadequate this known child will often feel. Thirdly, consider always making references to the achievements of other families to your spouse in a manner that provokes envy and a feeling of low esteem, imagine how broody your spouse will be all the time.
You see, the trend is there for all to see. It is very easy to compare people around us to other people, in subtle words or actions. When we do this, in the back of our minds, we believe we’re doing them a world of good whereas the opposite is the case. We believe turning their heads to see the accomplishments of others can spur them to breakthroughs when indeed this lopsided approach is what batters and eats them up and almost certainly ensures their heads never rise above the water of misery.
On to ourselves… This malady of undue comparism stretches its ugly tentacles to us. We see evidence of this in our incessant quest to measure our successes by the successes of others. Truth is, it’s very profitable to consider the hurrah moments and action points of others and challenge ourselves to do as well as they did to attain those heights. However, measuring our progress in an extremely parallel regard as far as time and quantity of achievement is concerned will serve us no good purpose.
No size fits all in the race for prominence and recognition in life. The shoe that fits John pinches Joe and vice versa. The time it takes for us to achieve the same results cannot and will never balance on an unbiased scale. The quantity/quality of our triumphs will never amount to the same thing. The fields in which we rise to prominence do not necessarily have to be the same. As they say, life is per head.
Many a battle has been lost in the quest to adopt the same approach as someone gone before us. The trick is to pick a little skill or quality here and there, combine this quality doggedly with our intrinsic personal values, apply both judiciously in our fields of interest and see ourselves soar beyond never-before-conceived heights.
Comparison they say is the thief of Joy and the more we sit down to overanalyze how we’re falling behind based on the perceived progress of others, the more we do not take necessary actions in propelling us to our points of relevance in life.
Find your niche. Work diligently at it. Don’t beat yourself up on what others can do that you can’t. Life is meant to be lived, not analyzed. Challenge yourself everyday and strive to be better than you were yesterday. That is the only real person you should consistently juxtapose your progress with; your yesterday self.
May the odds always be in your favour!